Yesterday, I was driving an almost eleven year old to a cat cafe birthday party and we were talking about how when someone doesn’t tell you what they want you to do and then get mad at you for not doing the thing - that it’s not your fault. “Yeah, I know,” she said, like it was the most obvious thing in the world. “Oh good,” I said, “because I didn’t know until I was very much an adult.”
There are so many things I didn’t and continue not to know. For years, without even noticing, I was trying to take up the least space and time that I possibly could.
And then one day, I was in line at the coffee shop, one of my usual places where I had constantly felt apologetic for existing among much busier, more important, and definitely in much more need of coffee people, in this insane morning rush there was a woman at the register who was TAKING HER TIME. The line was getting huffy behind her and she did not care - she wasn’t being egregious - she was doing what she needed to do, she took the time she needed for it and she did not apologize. And it was SO NICE TO SEE.
I think of her often. She is my role model.
THIS was exactly what I needed to read this morning. As so often as mujeres, we are taught to be demure, and not take up space. But then anything that takes up space.. MATTERS!
That woman, and YOU are my role models on this Monday morning ❤️
This resonates. When I breathe and allow myself needs--there’s such spaciousness. Thanks for this reminder ☺️